They say this about us all the time. But really, women often have a tough time deciphering what’s zipping through our man’s brain too. In fact, more and more research have revealed differences in how the male and female brains are wired – explaining why men behave like they’re are from Mars and women,Venus.
Combing through journals and the Net to power up our x-ray eyes and help us catch a glimpse of how a male mind ticks within that impenetrable (and sometimes balding) skull of steel, we’ve complied a five things every woman needs to know.
THE MEN ARE LOOKING AT YOUR LIPS
In a study by the University of Southern California, researchers found that the male brain is more likely to fixate on the mouth of a person in conversation, while women tend to shift their gaze between the eyes and body.
Time to shift some of your attention (and resources) from growing out lashes that are longer than skyscrapers to perfecting your pout and megawatt smile instead.
MEN COVET A STABLE RELATIONSHIP TOO
Men just want to sow their wild oats forever – the usual refrain goes. In real life, studies suggest that men want to settle down too, and lads in stable relationships tend to be healthier, live longer and decreased anxiety. Like they say, behind every great man there’s a wonderful woman.
But also do note that infidelities are most likely to occur in juvenile males (although some might argue that most men stay that way their entire lives), and they tend to shift their primary focus on providing for their families only after their big 3-0, says a study of the Bolivian boys.
As a matter of fact, men seem particularly vulnerable to loneliness and become even more needy of your love and attention as they get older. One reason may be that the typical “grown” man tend to reach out less than women. This exacerbates the paralyzing loneliness and the negative effects it takes on their brains’ social circuits and physical health.
To maintain an amazing love life as well as a healthy mind and body for both of you, experts recommend regular sweat-outs with your sweetie.
MEN ARE HARDWIRED TO CHECK OUT THE BABES
We know testosterone is a male hormone that stimulates libido and increases male aggression. Did you know that testosterone also impairs the impulse-control region of his brain, which is why men can’t seem to help but ogle at other girls as if on auto-pilot?
As much as it might irritate you, maintain your smile, composure and chill, girl – they often forget about the woman once she is out of their visual fields.
MEN NEED CLEAR CUES
Men tend to perform tasks predominantly with their left brain, which is the “logical” lobe. Women use both sides of their brains, because the female brain has a larger corpus callosum which allows us to transfer data between the right and left hemispheres faster than men.
While this does not mean that women are more likely to be in their “right mind” (even though majority of the time we are right. Right, sister?), it does illuminate why the Martians tend to approach communication with a task-oriented “let’s fix it” state of mind. Venusians, on the other hand, are more likely to be empathetic and intuitive (even of the unspoken) in their communication style.
Too often we hear complaints that the dudes are either dimwitted or just don’t seem to get it, as they always over-rationalize and try to “figure out” relationships and girlfriends like logical systems or machines, and how we wished they just try to understand how we feel. And the guys retaliate by calling us “irrational” like we are in perpetual PMS.
Opt for the “simple and clear” tactic when attempting to verbalize your thoughts and feelings, instead of lashing out in frustration when he can’t grab tonnes of your subtle emotional cues.
More: What Men Should Avoid Saying to Women at ALL Cost
MEN ARE PROGRAMMED TO TAKE FLIGHT OR FIGHT
Don’t push your man to the wall. When faced with stressful situations, men usually burst out with a “fight or flight” response.
In comparison, women use a “tend or befriend” technique that is rooted in our natural instincts for caring for children and establishing strong group bonds.
– By Libby Tanada
*This article has been selected Article of the Month for Sep 2012*